When My Clothes Finally Fit, Will They Still Fit My Personality?
Episode 7:
When My Clothes Finally Fit, Will They Still Fit My Personality?
Is that slight "no f*cks" personality shift a big shift when it comes to style?
I had just given myself a style makeover before I found out I was pregnant. I was so excited about my new wardrobe, Vivienne Westwood corset pants, bold silhouettes, edgy pieces. Then, boom, pregnancy! None of it fit. And I kept wondering, when I can finally wear these clothes again, will I even want to? Will I be the mom wearing a Jean Paul Gaultier dress with boobs printed on it at summer camp?
I went down a rabbit hole researching whether your personality changes after becoming a mother. I retook all my favorite personality tests, and guess what? My personality didn’t change. But even though my personality stayed the same, my style is constantly evolving. Why? In this episode, I share the research I did and the framework I created to help you embrace this new chapter of your life.
In This Episode, We'll Cover:
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The Trippy Rooftop Moment: That time I felt like myself again… until I looked in the mirror.
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Two Ways of Seeing Life: I share a fascinating article I found that changed everything for me. It explains that there are two camps of people: those who see themselves as the same person going through different stages of life, and those who see themselves as different people at each stage of life. I definitely fall into the second category.
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Personality vs. Style: Why your personality stays the same, but your style evolves.
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My "Three P's" Framework: Personality, Preference, and Pressure. I introduce a framework to help you understand why your style might feel off and how to recalibrate it.
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Embracing the Cocoon: Embracing the messy middle (aka the cocoon) before stepping into your new lifeline.
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Shopping Drama: A surprising shift in my style preferences (Balenciaga is out, Prada is in!), I share how my postpartum style journey has been full of twists and turns. The takeaway? It’s okay to let go of clothes that no longer align with the new you, even if they once felt perfect.
Episode Highlights:
"I see myself as a different person at each stage of life."
"Your clothes, bags, and shoes will never evolve, they’re just things. You, however, will evolve and grow. You get to dress the grown, evolved version of yourself."
"Your style is influenced by three P’s: personality (your stable core traits), preferences (what you’re drawn to), and pressure (external expectations). Balancing these is key to finding outfits that feel right."
Resources Mentioned In This Episode:
⬇️ **FREE DOWNLOAD**: The Identity Detector: Journaling prompts to help reshape your identity
Or you can download it for free at style.laurenmessiah.com/episode7
-The New Yorker Article: “Becoming You”
-The Atlantic Article: Want to Change Your Personality? Have a Baby.
Connect with Me:
I'm so curious to know what you think. Do you see yourself as a person going through different stages, or do you feel like you've lived different lives in one? Let me know! Shoot me a DM on Instagram (@laurenmessiah) or email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear your story.
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See you next time!
XO,
Lauren
