Baby, Take a Shower! How To Get Ready with a Newborn
Episode 9:
Baby, Take a Shower!
How To Get Ready with a Newborn
Society tells us that being a hot mess mom is just part of the deal, right? One day, I decided to experiment. I got dressed, nothing fancy, just a cute outfit, a little makeup, and my jewelry. I took Onyx and my dog, Yohji, out for a walk to the coffee shop. And you know what happened? Nothing. Nobody held the door for me. Nobody offered to help as I juggled a stroller, a baby, a dog, and my tea. I thought, wow, does the world just hate moms?
So the next day, I tried something different. I went out looking like a total mess, hair unbrushed, no makeup, wearing whatever I could grab. And suddenly, everyone wanted to help. People were holding doors, offering to carry things, and giving me those “Oh, you poor thing” looks. It hit me: when you look like you have it together, people assume you don’t need help. But when you look like you’re struggling, they rush to your aid.
Society has glamorized the “hot mess mom” look, and while it’s funny and relatable sometimes, it’s not the vibe I want for you. Looking a mess is almost celebrated, but I think it gives women a free pass to look like garbage when they don’t even want to.
Here’s what I cover in this episode:
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Why getting ready matters: I share the stats and research that prove how self-care routines like showering, grooming, and getting dressed can reduce stress, boost confidence, and even lower cortisol levels. Plus, I talk about how creating a morning rhythm can actually help regulate your baby’s mood (Yes, mama, your self-care helps your baby too!).
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Making time for yourself: I know what you’re thinking, “Lauren, I don’t have time!” But trust me, you do. I break down how to find those precious moments, whether it’s during your baby’s nap, while they’re in a pack-and-play, or by taking shifts with your partner.
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Simplifying your routine: From easy hairstyles (hello, cornrows!) to a five-minute makeup routine, I share my hacks for looking polished without spending hours. I also talk about how I switched to clean beauty products and created a portable “getting ready station” with my trusty caboodle.
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Wardrobe hacks for moms: I get real about the postpartum closet struggle, clothes that don’t fit, decision fatigue, and the temptation to just wear the same thing every day. I share how I’ve edited my wardrobe, created go-to outfits, and embraced a “capsule-adjacent” approach to make getting dressed quick and stress-free.
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The magic of getting dressed: Did you know that what you wear can actually change how you feel and perform? It’s called enclothed cognition, and I explain how putting on real clothes, even if it’s just a cute matching pajama set, can make you feel more capable, focused, and confident.
Episode Highlights:
"Society glamorizes being a mess after you have kids, but feeling put together can fuel your confidence and provide structure in your day."
"When you see a mother who is happy and dressed, society assumes she’s either lying about being happy or has a nanny and a rich husband. Why can’t we just celebrate her?"
"Looking a mess is almost celebrated, but I think it gives women a free pass to look like garbage when they don’t even want to."
Resources Mentioned In This Episode:
⬇️ **FREE DOWNLOAD**: How to Get Ready with a Newborn: Your official get-ready guide with product recommendations.
Or you can download it for free at style.laurenmessiah.com/episode9
Connect with Me:
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See you next time!
XO,
Lauren
